8 Reasons to Hate Good Girls

Only Young and Dumb Girls follow the pattern of being a lifelong Good Girl.

If you are female and born in the United States, how you behave for most of your life has been dictated to you by the time you were put into that cute little pink outfit at the hospital. Unfortunately, things haven’t changed much for women. We’d like to believe that we’ve “come a long way, baby,” but look around and observe the women you know. There is still a pattern here:

As women, the media likes to say we have it all. We can, in our lifetimes, have careers, marriage and children.

Really?

So if this hype is so true, why, as females, are we so exhausted and unfulfilled? Why is it that we don’t learn our full potential or how to live fulfilled lives until later in life? Why we are still expected to have careers, but still go home and work a second shift? Is it because we are still expected to do everything?

Are you the good girl who does everything that is expected of you? Then break the pattern and start living your life. Here are the 8 reasons to hate about Good Girls and why, if you’re female, being one is such a loser’s game:

The Good Girl will always seek everyone’s approval but her own.

The Good Girl’s world is all about her insecurities. She lives for the approval and applause from the people around her, but she has no clue what she wants for herself. Her major goal in life is to be The Good Girl.

The Good Girl is a People Pleaser and cannot say “No”.

The Good Girl will do anything for anyone. Like the hostess or the customer service representative in the party called Life, she feels she is responsible to make everyone around her happy. If you ask her to do something, she will smile and never say “No”. Volunteer organizations love the People Pleaser because if approached, she will take on the jobs no one wants. She will even appear cheerful and give you a sunny smile.

The Good Girl wants to know what people think about her.

Never mind what she things about her. It is much more important to know that other people think about her so that she can act accordingly. Who cares what she wants?

The Good Girl stands by her man.

If her man is abusive, needs to grow up or is the biggest jerk on the planet, she just smiles and takes his abuse. Whenever he does something offensive in public, she merely gives onlookers a weak smile and follows her man wherever he goes and does what he wants of her. She does this because she feels it is expected of her, and she won’t make a move without him.

The Good Girl keeps a shy demeanor and does not speak up.

Toddlers and younger children are known to exhibit shyness, but this is usually temporary as they grow up. The Good Girl keeps a shy demeanor and does not speak up. Therefore, no one knows what she wants. Knowing that she doesn’t speak up, no one asks for her opinion, either. By not speaking up, the Good Girl suffers in silence.

The Good Girl is always a follower

Since the Good Girl does not speak up, all that is left for her to do is be a follower. Followers can complain all they want, but when it comes to getting their voices heard, they sit back in silence. The Good Girl contributes nothing to a group situation and has to be content to follow decisions made by leaders.

The Good Girl always appears to be nice.

Being nice is how the Good Girl always plays when it comes to the outside world. She doesn’t know how to express her feelings by verbal communication, so she stuffs her anger and lets anyone run over her. If she isn’t already, the Good Girl is a passive-aggressive. She is a toxic personality with a blend of undesirable traits who deserves to be left alone.

The Good Girl has regrets and will always be unfulfilled as a woman.

The Good Girl will look back on her life and wail, “If only.”

When you base your life on what others expect of you, be prepared to be permanently lost. Many women who only do what others say don’t get what they want out of life. When you live by what people expect of you and shove your wants, needs and dreams aside, you will live to be an old, angry and bitter woman who has realized that she had wasted a good chunk of her life on others.

The next time you are at a family gathering or any social situation, study the women carefully. Which women naturally draw others because of their confidence and what they have accomplished in their lives? Now, look at the women who can only get attention by their anger and how they order people around, gather in cliques or gossip?

What you are as a woman depends on how you were raised, the role models in your family, your career, and who you keep around as your friends. But a large part of you is in your ability to change.

So think positively and focus on the changes you can make as you step out of the Good Girl shoes. No one likes or cares for the Good Girl. Smart women leave this Good Girl position in life behind.